Asexuality can be a rather confusing term – and if you’ve never heard of it before, or even if you have, chances are you’re not 100% sure what it means. Asexual (also commonly referred to as “Ace”) can be translated to “not sexual”. It’s a sexual identity that is most commonly used by those who don’t typically experience a feeling/desire for sex; it can also be used by those who don’t closely identify with any other sexualities.

This doesn’t mean that those who are asexual cannot experience any sexual attraction at all; some do. Those that do sometimes identify as “gray asexual” or “gray ace”. They are individuals who experience some level of asexuality, but not to its full extent. For example,  they may only experience sexual attraction on very rare occasions. Many asexuals find themselves looking for a romantic relationship without any sexuality attached – and so there are, in fact, many asexual people in both romantic AND aromantic relationships. (“Aromantic” simply means someone who is “not romantic”. This doesn’t mean that they can’t have a close relationship with someone – it just means that they don’t want a close relationship with romance involved. Thusly, there are asexual people who can be with someone in a close relationship/friendship that is neither sexual NOR romantic.)

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It’s also important to note that there are those who can identify as asexual and/or aromantic and also identify with another sexuality. Let’s say, for example – a man who experiences romantic attraction towards men and women, but no sexual attraction towards anyone. They might call themselves a biromantic asexual.

At the end of the day, however, labels are just labels. You can identify with whatever label that you feel most closely represents you – be it asexual, aromantic, biromantic, gay, straight, etc. On that line of thinking, you should always take caution not to assume or invalidate other people’s romantic or sexual feelings – even if you don’t fully understand them yourself. If you’re curious on asexuality or any of these other terms, and you’re left feeling confused, feel free to visit this website: http://www.whatisasexuality.com/intro/


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