College application season is here, and with it comes tremendous stress and uncertainty. In this Charlie Health article, Mindpath Health’s Rashmi Parmar, MD, shares why applying to college is so stressful and how best to manage your mental health and college application stress while applying to college.

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It’s that time of year again when students are narrowing down college lists and writing first drafts of college essays. College application season is here, and with it comes tremendous stress and uncertainty. It can feel as if your entire life has been leading up to this moment, all the hard work and determination bringing you toward being a college student.

While college admissions are undoubtedly important, the all-consuming stress accompanying them can seriously affect your mental health if not dealt with properly. “The process can be a source of extreme anxiety and take an emotional toll, as students feel pressure to excel academically, achieve impressive standardized test scores, and fear rejection from a dream school,” says Saba Harouni Lurie, a licensed marriage and family therapist.

Although the college application process can feel high stakes, it shouldn’t be the time when you develop high blood pressure and see your stress level skyrocket. Ideally, it should be an exciting chance to explore what you want from the next chapter of your life. With that in mind, we spoke with mental health professionals about how to cope with college application stress and what factors make the process so stressful for many.

How to manage the college application process

Break down big tasks

It can be overwhelming when you’re staring at one big project—like a college’s entire application form—trying to decide where to start. Instead, break down the college application process into smaller, manageable tasks, like picking an essay topic or making a list of people to ask for recommendations.

Make a checklist

Lurie says that once you have all your big tasks broken down into smaller, more doable ones, it can help to write them down. Seeing the college application tasks all listed out leaves your brain free to think of how to do them versus keeping track of them. It also gives you the satisfaction of checking each off when you finish it.

Write down deadlines

Mark exactly when each application is due on your checklist or on a calendar that you’ll regularly look at. Just make sure you triple-check the deadlines before writing anything down to avoid missing one.

Set aside specific time to work

Start early and pick specific times of the day or week to work on your college application. It’s unsustainable to always work on your college applications, and this scheduling system can reduce guilt when doing other things like relaxing or spending time with friends and family.

Make realistic goals

Reduce your stress by applying “to a good mix of upper, middle, and safety-tier colleges to avoid disappointment and to ensure a spot,” says Dr. Rashmi Parmar, a psychiatrist at Mindpath Health. “Remember that some applications may be rejected, and accept it as a part of the process. It is not going to define your potential and worth.”

Be kind to yourself

Applying to college is a stressful process, and whatever your goals are, it’s important to give yourself credit for how hard you’ve worked, Parmar adds. Integrate habits into your life that reflect care and love for yourself. This also means distracting yourself while you wait for application responses and, most importantly, not conflating your self-worth with your college application results.

Seek out support systems

Whether it be your parents, teachers, school counselors, peers, or online communities, there are many avenues of support to pursue while going through the college application process. Seeking out therapy can also be a good idea if you’re struggling to manage the college application stress independently—something that is normal for many people.

What causes college application stress?


College application stress can begin even before you sit down to complete your first application. There’s stress to have a perfect academic record, hit the best scores on standardized tests, and do lots of extracurriculars, says Parmar. Sometimes, it can feel like you’re competing with high school peers and students worldwide. The limited spots available for each school (and for financial aid) don’t help matters.

Lack of control

There is never a guarantee of how your application will be received, and that uncertainty can be overwhelming. At the end of the day, all you can do is try your best and prepare for all outcomes.

Family expectations

Sometimes, family can act as a support — other times, they can add to your stress. “Some students may additionally encounter pre-set cultural and family expectations of adopting a particular career path by getting accepted to a specific college, complicating the picture,” says Parmar. Additional stresses might come from being the first in your family to attend college or applying to schools far from your hometown.

Financial obligations

According to U.S. News & World Reports, in the 2022 to 2023 school year, the average public college cost students $10,423, and the average private college cost students $39,723. These numbers are for tuition alone—room and board add to the price. Finding and receiving opportunities to lower the cost of college is another stress in and of itself for many students, adds Parmar. Lurie adds that navigating the scholarship and loan systems can be very challenging, especially when students don’t have a knowledgeable person to walk them through it.

Language barrier

Sometimes, a student or their parents might not speak fluent English, which can add to the stress of applying and going to colleges in English-speaking countries, like the United States. “Students with language or cultural barriers may feel stressed about their ability to keep up with language proficiency in academic courses and communicate effectively with staff and peers,” says Parmar. “International students may have additional worries on their plate like visa applications, arranging for accommodations, and adjusting to a new environment.”

Physical and mental health concerns

Living with physical and mental health conditions that require accommodation can also add to the college admissions stress. “Unfortunately, many schools are not ADA-compliant, so students with disabilities can experience a great deal of anxiety around picking a school they will be able to navigate easily,” says Lurie. Then there’s the additional stress of needing to disclose these conditions to colleges in the first place and apply for appropriate accommodations, adds Parmar.

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Rashmi Parmar, MD

Newark, CA

Dr. Rashmi Parmar is a dual board-certified child, adolescent, and adult psychiatrist. Dr. Parmar's treatment philosophy involves making patients and their families feel heard and understood while tailoring their treatment goals. She educates her patients to make well-informed treatment choices and believes in achieving the overall well-being of an individual rather than targeting the illness itself. Dr. Parmar is well ... Read Full Bio »

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